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To What Extent Envisioning Makes Your Public Speaking Easy?

The ability to see, envision and imagine, painting a verbal picture with words.

Calling into your minds eye and imagination vivid images and analogies, metaphors etc, is a powerful tool and utility to have that will make easy your public speaking more and more as you master and hone your craft. It can be mightily powerful.

Always try to picture and envision, see in your minds-eye and imagination what you are reading about.

Try and verbally describe and paint the picture to someone else. Write things you see and impressions you have in your own words.

A great way to exercise this skill is to often practice writing things from memory. Try and describe something around you vividly. Try a raging storm, a sea-landscape, a battle-scene in a movie, the starry sky at night, a camp-fire.

These will all help you hone and harness your visualization [Visualization Techniques] and projection qualities and abilities.

Paying attention and concentration…

Developing and keeping your interest in something will help you greatly when practicing and utilizing this skill. Typically there are things that get and keep our attention easily:

• Some things familiar and comforting
• Things that give us pleasure
• Expectations

The inherent or learned ability to focus on ONE THING ALONE is a great skill for a public speaker to have. You will be less distracted and better able to keep track of your thoughts, process, progress and delivery, all at once.

Strong mental discipline, daily practice and ongoing mastery, raising the bar is the only way to victory on this important aspect of public speaking.

You have to work on both your attention span and the ability to remember things well (memory).

• Repeating things helps.
• Interest develops over time.
• You will not be distracted that often and too much anymore the more you do it and focus on ONE thing and remembering it!

Mental focus and concentration should come with ease and no straining. Healthy body, healthy mind and soul! TAKE THE TIME TO FOCUS AND REMEMBER!

In the spur and heat of the moment… being spontaneous!

All art must be preceded by a certain mechanical ex-pertness, and this is particularly applicable to the subject of diction, voice production and expression.

Sometimes you will not be all-consumed by the mechanics of the process, you will just give over and enjoy, letting things flow naturally, practicing your craft.

Other times you will be dealing with the mundane routine practice of almost basic rote skills, mechanistic techniques and details to get BETTER and REALLY GOOD at it!

Eventually it will take little to no effort on your part anymore. The more you do it, the better and more natural it will become. Almost like second nature. It becomes more accurate, predictable and reliable and you will start using it with more confidence, the more familiar you get with it.

You will discover the joys and secrets of being spontaneous rather then repressing emotions, enjoying the freedoms of ‘speech’ rather than the restraints and limitations. It will become natural and easy for you over and in time.

The skill of discussion and dialogue:

How you handle and express yourself every day, while in interaction with others, will all affect how you come across in public speaking situations.

Discussion is a dialogue

• Ease and correct use is paramount
• You can keep improving and improvising as you go along
• The simplest and most direct form of vocal expression.
• Less formal
• Beginning of speech culture

Public speaking is a monologue

• More formal
• Requires increased definiteness
• Less improvisation and thinking on your feet – more planning and deliberate execution
• On occasion,  special event or happening (planned purpose)
• All said and expressed is tailored to suit the circumstances of space purpose and number
• More deliberation in style

Giving a speech in this fashion does not come naturally to any or all of us! It feels and is in fact different!

By paying close attention to what it is that you are actually doing, you will and can have great success. Practice it with ease, naturalness, and variety of good conversation, avoiding loudness and you will discover your ‘inner voice and talents’ quickly! USE THEM TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

Keep the things really simple…

Keep your expressive art really simple and really effective and mastered. Keeping things simple, does not mean you have to repress, ignore or dismiss everything.

Rather it implies that you should actively and hands-on, intelligently make use of all the expressive arts and skill in your arsenal through sincere, direct, and spontaneous effort.

Put differently… if you keep it simple, it will in effect be exactly that SIMPLE!

How To Map Your Anger Process?

Like an observer you know that how anger affects you. It’s time to map how your anger really works - the process of your anger.

Use the techniques of mental DVD to remain a here-and-now observer of your experience.

Either adopt the house perspective or use the mental DVD to recapture an anger event that was too overwhelming to track as it unfolded.

What have you learned? On a separate piece of paper, record as much detail as you can in the following anger map exercise.

Exercise: Your Anger Map

Pre-Anger Feelings:

Describe the emotions and physical sensations you noticed this week preceding your anger episode. Is there typically one feeling, or are there several that may show up at the beginning of your anger process?

How do these feelings affect your sense of self-worth? Do you find yourself wanting to escape or suppress them? Are there physical sensations preceding anger that are painful or uncomfortable? Does anger help to push them out of your awareness?

Trigger Thoughts:

Write down as much as you can remember about any painful images or memories that come up in anger situations. What judgments do you typically make about other people?

Which of your expectations or rules for living do they fail to live up to? Note how your trigger thoughts may change your pre-anger feeling or distract you from them. [Anger Triggers]

Anger Feeling:

Does your anger build slowly, or suddenly ignite full force? Does it sometimes stick around and brew for long periods of time, like a low-grade cold? Does it feel good, sweeping away hurt or shame? Does it feel scary or disturbing?

Write down everything you’ve learned as an observer of your anger, every detail about the feeling and its effect on you. Especially note what happened to your pre-anger feelings and any changes in your trigger thoughts.

Impulse to Act:

What did you want to do this week when your anger surged? What images or thoughts came to mind? Write down everything you imagined saying or doing.

You may have done only some or perhaps none of those things, but it’s important to identify as many anger-driven impulses as possible. How did you decide whether or not to act on them?

Anger Behavior:

Write down what you actually did, via gestures, facial expressions, words, tone of voice, or overt behavior (acts of aggression, violence) as a response to your anger.

How did the aggression feel at the moment? How did it affect your anger (both the emotion and physical sensations)? As time went on, how did your feelings change, if at all, regarding your anger behavior?

What Are The Rules To Use And Remember When Using Inflection In Your Speech?

Moving up and down the scales and slides, nuances of your voice-range and scope will show your train of thought.

It helps the audience track better what it is that you are trying to say and convey.

If you want to pause or place emphasis on something, you will naturally feel your voice raise or go slightly higher.

The inflection in your tone and modality of your voice goes up. Monotone presentation is boring and excruciating to listen to. By using these tones in your voice, you can easily show how things differ. They tell a story.

This gliding up and down your vocal scale can be used to show that something is of importance, stands out and even be very direct and strongly voiced, put or expressed. Soft, wavy tones can show empathy and beauty, grace and understanding.

Here are the rules you have to remember when using inflection in public speaking:

The rational and valid uses of the rising inflection:

Here are some examples as to when the voice inflection going up is quite effective:

• When you are expressing any forms of doubt or possible contingency
• Incomplete sentences
• Negative phrases and statements
• Building or creating suspense
• Inquiry or interrogation where yes or no can be given as answers

Demonstrative emotive use of the rising inflection:

• Raising and appeal with high or low pitch (depending on the situation)
• Pleasure and amiable positive emotions, ,expressing tenderness or love often the voice modulates and gets a lots softer and wavier
• When surprise, wonder and amazement , even terror are expressed
• Prayer or supplication (solemn (subdued/low) to intense (raised/high)

Rational and valid use of the falling inflection:

• When a thought is done and completed.
• Lots of ideas and phrases, highly complex, keeping things separate and distinct
• Questioning phrases, where there is no clear-cut yes/no answer

Demonstrative emotive use of the falling inflection:

• Strong belief in what you are saying, use solemn affirmation or have strong conviction of the truth we speak
• Negative emotions that are voiced as stern, harsh and vindictive anger or hatred
• When we want to express gloom,  dejection, melancholy, or distress
• Order, give commands, express reprehension,  or authority,

Rational and valid use of the circumflex inflection:

• When highlighting or expressing antithesis
• Emphatic suggestions and ambiguity (implied not necessarily stated) Affirm-down, Negative – rising

Demonstrative emotive use of the circumflex inflection:

• When expressing irony in any way
• Negative emotions like scorn, contempt, or reproach, that you want to emphasize
• When a question is followed by words closely connected with it

Self Improvement Through Walking

Self improvement is a noble ambition, which most of times involves the quest for a healthier and more attractive body.

The best thing to do when trying to get a better body is to simply start moving around more because weight tends to creep into a body when a person does not expend as many calories as he or she takes in with food and drinks.

There is no need to jump right into a rigorous exercise routine for people who have not been active for quite some time.

Actually, strenuous exercise after long periods of inactivity may result in injuries.

Injuries are not only worrying, but they can also have great negative psychological effects on a person: several people decide there is no reason to bother exercising after encountering an exercise-related injury, when the truth is that if they had simply started slowly the injury most likely would have never happened to begin with.

It’s quite normal to be gung-ho after a decision is made to get into shape, but it needs to be gently eased into activity if a body has remained on the couch for years.

Simple Walking

It is best to begin with a simple walk around the block or a park. This does not even have to be every single day in the start, but rather it is meant to be a method by which a person not only starts to get some physical activity routine but also perks interest in doing more strenuous activity finally.

Several times a person who is highly fit will admit that it is wit merely walking with which their quest to a better body started, and which later blossomed into jogging or enrolling in a gym and meeting with a personal trainer. Keep in mind: everyone needs to start somewhere.

The walks might turn into longer walks or instead perhaps the person will seek out a more challenging terrain such as a hilly street or steep trail once a person is able to walk at a brisk pace without becoming winded.

Several people grow to love their walks, finding the walks not only to be great exercise but also refreshing. A daily walk can become a true moment of reflection and relaxation for people who spend a lot of time hunched over a desk at work or caring for young children at home.

It is also important to keep in mind that if walks do not necessarily spark an urge to join a gym or engage in other forms of exercise it’s not necessarily a bad thing.

Many experts suggested walking as one of the best forms of exercise, and if that is all a person does for physical movement then it is definitely better than no form of exercise whatsoever.

Get up and get moving. It is with exercise that the road to a healthier body starts, no matter how little the effort in the start. Even if, in the start, an exercise routine consists of nothing more than walking the dog down the street and back it is definitely better than no exercise at all.

What Are Anger Myths And How They Affect Us?

Anger is an unavoidable part of being human. Anger is especially based on myths.

All myths of anger give good reasons for anger and aggressive behavior.

Myth 1: Anger and aggression are natural for humans

The idea that humans are born with a basic instinct for anger and aggression has been used to explain just about everything from marital arguments to global warfare.

The thinking here is that instinctual biological pressures can push people past some built-in anger threshold. Even the APA - the American Psychological Association - contributes to this point of view:

• The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively.
• Anger is a natural adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked.
• A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.

Although this way of thinking makes some sense, it has one major flaw.

Successful evolution has been based on cooperation, not destructive conflict and aggression. Even primates fight in an organized manner.

They fight to preserve the species, not to kill their opponents. Acts of violence among species tend to occur in defense of the group, typically for purposes of protecting territory or resources.

What causes people to feel anger?

When people feel threatened, it is natural for them to feel anger. But this feeling does not justify anger behavior. As human beings, we have always lived in small clusters of closely related members who have nurtured and helped rather than destroyed each other.

Nurturing actions promote growth and survival. Violence aimed at one’s own group or family undermines the survival and overall well-being of the group and everyone who belongs to it.

By looking at the pattern of existence from birth to old age, it is quite clear that humans seek nurture and thrive when they are nurtured. Humans and other primates deprived of basic nurturing fail to thrive.

According to research, there is no scientific evidence to support the belief that humans are naturally aggressive. Waging war and other violent behavior is not genetically programmed into our human nature.

Except for very rare situations, genes do not produce individuals that are prone to violence. There is nothing in the wiring of our brains that makes us act violently.

Aggression versus anger:

Despite popular belief, aggression can occur without any feelings of anger. Violence (even murder) can occur for a number of reasons that have nothing to do with feeling angry. A prizefighter aims to hit another fighter without feeling angry.

Soldiers in the military train to kill other human beings, but they may experience guilt and sorrow more often than anger.

You can feel angry without acting that anger out in violent ways. In fact, experts say that anger feelings seem to be followed by aggressive behavior only about 10 percent of the time.

Aggressive behavior is one among many choices you can make when you experience anger. You can learn to make other choices.

Myth 2: Frustration always leads to aggression

The idea that frustration leads to aggression was made by the famous Sigmund Freud, who believed that individuals are born with an innate aggressive instinct.

How to handle your anger?

• Sigmund Freud also thought that blocking the instinct for aggression only leads to it being redirected somewhere else.
• So, when you perceive whatever makes you angry as being too risky to attack (your boss, for example), you redirect your anger toward someone or something else that is less risky or threatening.
• You may redirect your aggression toward your boss by picking a fight with one of your coworkers, yelling at your kids, smashing something, or even kicking your dog.

This idea that frustration leads to aggression received quite a bit of research support back in the 1950s and 60s, but we now know that aggression is not the only behavior that can follow frustration and hurt.

For instance, many Tibetan people were suddenly displaced from their homeland after the Chinese invaded Tibet in 1952. Most of these people now live in exile.

Yet, despite the hardship they’ve endured, the Tibetans have refrained from taking any aggressive action toward the Chinese. In fact, their leaders shun violence and consistently encourage their people to practice nonviolence and compassionate understanding.

Different ways in responding to frustration:

You will find that people respond in a variety of different ways to frustration.

• Some people will curse, hit, or kick something after losing money in a vending machine.
• Others will write down the name and address of the vending machine and request a refund by mail.
• Many more people will simply shrug their shoulders and walk away.

Despite new evidence that shows this myth is false, the persistence of believing that frustration leads to aggression is surprising. An unfortunate consequence of this misperception is that people use it to explain and excuse the anger they express when they don’t get what they want.

Frustration is far too often seen as a direct route to provoking anger and aggression, and anger is rationalized as an automatic and natural response.

Many people assume that anger is the only possible way to respond when things go wrong and they feel frustrated. This myth leads people to buy into the idea that they have no choice about how they respond.

The truth is that there are always choices; anger is only one of several possible responses to frustration. This article will show you a whole new range of choices and ways to respond when you feel anger and experience frustration.

Myth 3: Venting your anger is healthy

The idea that venting anger to let off steam is necessary and helpful has become a part of popular culture.

It originates from misunderstood statements by Sigmund Freud.

How to overcome from frustration?

The myth is that frustration can build up over time; that it must be released one way or the other.

• Bottled-up, unexpressed anger supposedly festers in your mind and body, creating both physical and emotional disease and poisoning relationships in all areas of life.
• The presumed basic cure is to express your anger by letting it all out; to cleanse and purify your body and mind. This cleansing is supposed to clear the air, resulting in healthier and happier communication with the people around you, giving you a good clean feeling, and increasing your self-esteem.

Through many years of research, the venting idea has been put to rest. Blowing off steam is not beneficial. Carol Tavris, a well-known anger researcher, found that people who are most likely to vent their rage actually get more, rather than less angry when they do.

And those at the receiving end of anger outbursts get angry too. You may have noticed this with yourself in your interactions with colleagues, with friends, or perhaps with your partner or children at home.

It all starts with some trigger event [Anger Triggers], which is followed by an angry outburst, shouting, screaming, or crying; a climax that include physical violence; exhaustion and finally withdrawal and/or eventually an apology.

Have you noticed how this cycle can be replayed over and over with no decrease in your overall level of anger?

When anger is let out, it is typically met with anger right back. Negative energy breeds more negative energy. Behavior such as yelling or even talking out an emotion doesn’t reduce anger feelings.

Numerous studies have shown that venting anger typically serves to “freeze” a hostile attitude or opinion. Venting does not make hostile feelings go away; instead they tend to stick around longer and haunt you.

The bottom line is that venting is really useless. Expressing anger does not reduce anger. Instead it just makes you even angrier.

Venting feeds an angry attitude and state of mind, escalates anger and aggression, and does nothing to help you or the recipient of your anger to resolve the situation.

Sometimes people do feel relieved after they vent their anger, yet several studies have found that such relief is not a natural consequence of anger, but rather a learned reaction.

Some people have learned to feel relief following expression of anger, just as other people learn to feel shame or increased compassion after venting. You can learn new responses and change how you respond to your anger feelings.

Your response to anger feelings with anger actions becomes a choice rather than a certainty. Acting on anger is not natural or something you need to keep doing.

Myth 4: Anger is always beneficial

• Because it triggers a surge of adrenaline, anger can mobilize you to defend yourself or escape when you are physically threatened or attacked. This is called the fight-or-flight response.
• Anger can help you set appropriate limits and overcome any fear you may have about asserting your needs.
• Anger is also a common middle step in the healing process following sexual or physical abuse.
• Anger is only beneficial when it serves as a warning signal that something is wrong.
• It can increase your sense of control and most importantly prepare you for action.
• This type of anger involves situations in which people have clearly been hurt or are at risk of being harmed. Anger in these circumstances isn’t fueled by general hostility. Instead, it is an appropriate reaction to a real threat or danger.

Situations in which anger is not helpful:

In some tough situations, anger isn’t helpful when the abused person is unable to let go of it. Consuming anger can actually leave you stuck and unable to move beyond your pain. [Fear - Main Cause of Anger]

Fear is an appropriate emotion upon seeing an approaching gang of hoodlums while walking alone on a city street at night. When the danger passes, so does the fear.

Constructive anger can function much the same way. But when anger spills over into other life situations where it is uncalled for, it can become a problem for you.

Take a moment to think about how often your anger occurs in response to situations that have little or no chance of causing you physical injury or risk of death.

Most harmful form of anger:

• Anger fueled by hostility is anger in its most harmful form. Hostility or cynical anger is a state of mind of ill will fueled by strong judgments about yourself and other people.
• This type of cynical or hostile anger, let alone hatred, is never useful or helpful. It can easily lead to aggressive behavior, verbal or otherwise.
• Hostile anger damages areas of your life you care about; harming other people at the same time it harms you.

Myth 5: A person’s anger is caused by others

Anger experts say that they consistently notice that angry clients come into therapy with one or more reasons to explain and justify why they are so angry.

Though the stories may differ, the message is the same: “My anger is caused by someone else or something else. I’m not to blame.”

When you’re in pain, it’s logical to ask yourself, “Who did this to me; who’s responsible?”

As soon as you decide that someone else is responsible for your hurt or physical tension, the focus shifts from you to them. You can then feel justified in releasing your pain and hurt with anger directed toward those you believe to be responsible for it.

Anger is triggered by people and events outside your control. However, how you react to your anger thoughts and feelings is up to you.

By shifting the blame to others, you rob yourself of the opportunity to make changes in your behavior - and you keep yourself stuck in a cycle of anger behavior triggered by anger feelings.